Apply the least amount of interpersonal force necessary accomplish your objectives. Overreactions, ultimatums, and threats often fail most spectacularly.
Willpower to the People (Part Two)
Contemporary research has turned ancient notions about willpower upside down. Our ability to stifle urges, restrain impulses, and self-regulate doesn’t just happen in the brain. It also happens in the blood. Here are five ways to strengthen and preserve our precious, but finite, willpower.
Willpower to the People (Part One)
Many of us sense that it is harder than ever to prevent our quick-draw tongues from issuing thoughtless rebuttals, or to stop our rapid-fire fingers from typing or texting impulsive messages. These hunches are valid—it is getting harder to stifle our self-defeating communication urges. Here’s why.
Restrain Yourself (Part Two)
Restraint prevents relational damage, protects your goals, and allows the time for negative emotions to subside before you respond. These six actions will help you build restraint.
Restrain Yourself (Part One)
The focus on instant communication and uninhibited self-expression in the digital age is eroding our communication restraint. And when restraint is eroded, the crucial protective space between our emotions and our responses shrinks to a dangerously small size.